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Caregiver Quotes and Tips – Being Perfect | by Linda Brendle

perfect caregiver

I can’t count the times that I was a less than perfect caregiver. Sometimes I snapped at Mom through no fault of hers. I frequently forgot to check Dad’s blood sugar at the proper time. The biggest failure in my mind was my inability to continue to care for her in my home. Fortunately, I have memories like this one that remind me of the many times I was a good caregiver.

When you are less than perfect, don’t beat yourself up. On the other hand, when you do something right, make a note in your journal or take a photo to remind yourself of the millions of ways in which you are a good caregiver.

Blessings,

Linda

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Caregiver Quotes and Tips – Don’t Dwell On the Disease | by Linda Brendle

Don't Dwell on the disease

While I was caregiving, I spent too much time focusing on Alzheimer’s and what it had taken away instead of valuing what it had left behind. Even when she couldn’t remember what the preacher said for five minutes Mom still had a sweet, clear soprano voice, and she loved to participate in the praise and worship portion of the church service. Dad could no longer balance his checkbook or remember what day it was, but he could still crack a corny joke, often at his own expense, that made everyone groan and laugh at the same time. And when they were no longer sure of how long they had been together or how they came to be where they were, they still smiled, kissed, held hands, and expressed a love that had survived every effort of dementia to steal away those sweet memories.

Blessings,

Linda

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Caregiver Quotes and Tips – Just Dance | by Linda Brendle

Just Dance

I love this quote I found on Pinterest yesterday. If an Alzheimer’s caregiver, or anyone, can learn to follow this advice, dancing would come much easier.

1. Denial manifests itself in lots of ways. With me, one of the most obvious was arguing with her. “Mom, you just asked me that five minutes ago. Don’t you remember–I told you at breakfast where we were going today.” Of course she didn’t remember. She was doing well to remember how to tie her shoes. (more…)

Caregiver Quotes and Tips – Asking for Help | by Linda Brendle

Asking for help

Caregiving is a lonely job, but it doesn’t have to be. I’m not sure if it’s the pride of thinking no one can care for your loved one but you, or if it’s the guilt of feeling like you are shirking your duties if you take a break. Either way, too many caregivers try to shoulder the huge burden of caring all by themselves. (more…)

Caregiver Quotes and Tips – Doing Your Best | by Linda Brendle

Doing Your Best

I believe one of the greatest burdens a caregiver has to carry is guilt. When I was an active caregiver, no matter how good a job I did, I always managed to beat myself up mentally and emotionally for the times I was less patient or less loving that I wanted to be. My tip for today would be this — give yourself a break.

I once read an article in which children were asked to explain what a mother was. One little boy said something like this. “A mother is someone who always comes to your room in the middle of the night when you’re sick. She might say, ‘Oh, damn!’ — but she always comes.”

Caring for an elderly parent or other loved one is one of the most demanding jobs in the world. No one can do it right all the time, but your presence and involvement are more important than your perfection. Do the best you can with what you have to offer today, and know that you are doing a great job!

Blessings,

Linda

Caregiver Quotes and Tips – Great Love

Small things with great love

In my writing, I have sometimes called caregiver heroes–not the kind of hero that steps up in a sudden moment of crisis and performs a single amazing feat of courage. Instead, caregivers are heroes because of, as today’s quote says, the small things they do. A caregiver’s life consists of taking care of repetitive but essential needs like nutritious food, clean clothes, fresh bedding, regular medications, doctor’s appointments, companionship, reassurance, comfort, and so much more. Even the most heroic caregiver is also human, though. They get tired, bored, discouraged, irritable, angry, and sad. In spite of these feelings and others, they quietly continue to see to the needs of their loved one with heroic commitment and great love.

Blessings,

Linda

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Caregiver Quotes and Tips – Things You Must Do

Things you must do

I’ve always remembered something I heard my aunt say when she was talking about raising children. “I never thought I could stick my hand down my child’s throat, but when he’s choking, you do what you have to do,” she said.

As a caregiver, I had to do many things I didn’t think I could do. When faced with those moments, I remembered my aunt, and I remembered what the Apostle Paul said in his letter to the Christians at Philippi: “I can do all things through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:13

Blessings,

Linda

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