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Love Is Stronger than Alzheimer’s | by Linda Brendle

12 days of Christmas GiveawayToday is my day in the 12 Days of Christmas Giveaways. Read to the bottom of this post to find out how to enter for a chance to win a signed copy of the first edition of A Long and Winding Road: A Caregiver’s Tale of Life, Love, and Chaos along with assorted other goodies.

 

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Young Helen and Elmer

Young Lovers

Mom and Dad met when they were 17 years old. They lived on adjoining farms in West Texas, went to the same church, went to the same school, and travelled in the same social circles. I love the story of the day their romance really began.

Even into his late 80s, Dad was a nice looking man, but he was a real cutie as a teenager. All the girls wanted to catch his attention, but he sat quietly on the school bus, wrapped in his own thoughts and shyness. They watched him, giggling and hoping he’d look their way. (more…)

The Truck Stop Crawl | by Linda Brendle

Truck Stop CrawlParenting is never easy, especially on the road. When the objects of said parenting are not cute little rug rats but rather sweet octogenarians with Alzheimer’s, traveling can be even more challenging.

“I have to go NOW!” Dad said on a trip from Tampa to Dallas. (more…)

Quotes from A Long and Winding Road – Navy Showers | by Linda Brendle

Navy Showers

What I failed to consider is that nothing is easy when Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia are involved. Personal hygiene was a continuing issue, both during our seven-week RV trip and throughout the many years I cared for Mom and Dad. Caregivers learn to take into consideration the limitations of their loved ones, we learn to choose our battles, and sometimes we learn to rely on wet wipes and lots of deodorant.

Blessings,

Linda

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Quotes from A Long and Winding Road – Honor and Privilege | by Linda Brendle

I have exciting news. A Long and Winding Road: A Caregiver’s Tale of Life, Love, and Chaos will be available in print some time in early 2015. I will share more details as I get them.

Honor and privilege

Blessings,

Linda

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Quotes from A Long and Winding Road – Drifting Away | by Linda Brendle

Drifting Away

Blessings,

Linda

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Celebrating Christian Piatt – Again! |by Linda Brendle

Christians first birthday

Last year on October 7, I wrote about the day Christian was born. This year, I thought I’d tell you about his first birthday.

We didn’t have a big blowout on his big day–no clowns or ponies or giant mice serving pizza–just four adoring adults celebrating the new life that had come into our family twelve months before. His dad and I drove down to Mom and Dad’s weekend retreat at Cedar Creek Lake for the weekend, and we had a party for five. Instead of a traditional cake, I made cupcakes. I inverted ice cream cones over the batter so the cakes would rise into them. The idea was that the cone would provide a clean and easy way for a one-year-old boy to eat his cake. As you can see, he had other ideas.

His presents were simple ones. He received a couple of toys he could push or pull as he practiced his newly acquired walking skills. He also got a Busy Bath which we put to good use once he was finished smearing cake and frosting all over himself.

Christian, even though their memories of you got lost in the dementia,Mom and Dad adored you to the end. As for me, I still consider being you mom as one of the greatest blessings of my life.

Happy Birthday,

Mom

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Caregiver Quotes and Tips – How You Make Them Feel | by Linda Brendle

How you made them feel

I found this on Pinterest, and it reminded me of one of my favorite Alzheimer’s stories, a story that was attributed to Ronald Reagan. I couldn’t verify if actually happened to the Reagan family, but regardless of the source, it is a sweet story with a sweet message.

Supposedly, after President Reagan was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, his son visited him regularly in the residential care facility where he lived. One day as his son left, President Reagan looked at his caregiver and said, “I don’t know who that man is, but he always gives me a hug.”

Your loved one may not remember who you are–as Mom’s condition worsened, she was more likely to talk about me than to me. Even when she couldn’t remember my name, though, she always seemed to remember that she felt safe with me.

Blessings,

Linda

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Caregiver Quotes and Tips – Don’t Dwell On the Disease | by Linda Brendle

Don't Dwell on the disease

While I was caregiving, I spent too much time focusing on Alzheimer’s and what it had taken away instead of valuing what it had left behind. Even when she couldn’t remember what the preacher said for five minutes Mom still had a sweet, clear soprano voice, and she loved to participate in the praise and worship portion of the church service. Dad could no longer balance his checkbook or remember what day it was, but he could still crack a corny joke, often at his own expense, that made everyone groan and laugh at the same time. And when they were no longer sure of how long they had been together or how they came to be where they were, they still smiled, kissed, held hands, and expressed a love that had survived every effort of dementia to steal away those sweet memories.

Blessings,

Linda

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Release Day: A LONG AND WINDING ROAD: A Caregiver’s Tale of Life, Love, and Chaos by Linda Brendle

A Long and Winding Road

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Sometimes reality really bites. Alzheimer’s has wrapped Mom’s brain into knots, vascular dementia has attacked Dad, and instead of carefree retirees, we have become caregivers. Regardless, dreams die hard, and we somehow stumbled into the purchase of a forty-foot motor home. That’s when all four of us set out on this seven-week trek across sixteen U.S. states. Now, Dad stopped-up the toilet again, Mom wet her last pair of clean jeans, and David just announced that he was hungry. My head is beginning to pound, and I know this isn’t going to be the easygoing retirement we’d imagined for ourselves.

Linda Brendle takes you on a roller-coaster ride of emotional and spiritual challenges that many families are facing right now. Co-dependency, mental breakdowns, and finding love after divorce are just a few of the issues weaved into this journey of caregiving. Whether you’re looking for an inspirational story to help teach you how to “let go and let God,” considering becoming the caregiver for one of your own parents, or are just looking for an entertaining travel book, this story is sure to strike a tender nerve.

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Author Bio:

After 15 years as a family caregiver, Linda began writing to encourage, inspire and amuse other caregivers. She loves to travel and since retiring has traveled mostly by motorcycle and RV. She and her husband live in a small East Texas town where she gardens, writes and attends church.

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Blessings,
Linda

 

Thank You for a Great Cover Reveal Day | by Linda Brendle

winding road Cover 25 percentYesterday, when the cover of my upcoming memoir was revealed, was the most exciting day I’ve experienced since putting fingers to keyboard with the intention of sharing my words with the world. Maybe I should correct myself and say it was the second most exciting day. The day Anaiah Press offered to publish my book was probably the most exciting. (more…)

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