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City Sister and Country Sister | by Linda Brendle

Published in the Rains County Leader on September 5, 2017:

HR 90th BDMom was born on September 3, so she’s always on my mind during this season. Every year I post a picture of her on Facebook that was taken six years ago on her 90th birthday, her last one on earth, and then I spend most of the day thinking about her. Last Sunday, probably because I was also thinking about what to write in my column, I remembered what a city girl she was in spite of the fact that she spent her first nineteen years on various farms in west Texas. (more…)

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The Button Box | by Linda Brendle

Published in the Rains County Leader on July 4, 2017:

ButtonsMy work day as part-time secretary at Believers’ Baptist Church is flexible. As long as I get the work done, Pastor Jason doesn’t care too much what time I arrive or what time I leave. I try to be at my desk no later than 9:30 so I can accomplish a little something before David and I leave at 11:00 to go to the Senior Center, but I frequently have trouble sticking to my own timetable. There’s always one more chapter to read, a chore I left undone the night before, or some wardrobe malfunction to deal with. Last Friday morning, it was a button. (more…)

Photo Memories of Mom’s 90th Birthday | by Linda Brendle

Mom was born 94 years ago today. On her last birthday this side of Heaven we had a birthday party for her, and the following year, I shared some of the pictures with you. I’ve been thinking about her a lot lately, so I thought I’d share them again. (more…)

Bible Verses for Caregivers – Peace versus Disorder | by Linda Brendle

Disorder versus peace

 

On Mom’s 90th birthday, we had a party for her at Southridge Village where she was living. Two of her three remaining sisters, Grace and Fay, were there. Grace and Mom both had Alzheimer’s, so getting a decent photo was a bit like trying to hold corks underwater. Finally, Fay moved to the middle of the group, and with characteristic good humor and calm, she took control and brought order to the chaos.

Paul said that God is a God of peace and not disorder. He was speaking of the confusing worship services that occurred in the church at Corinth when everyone wanted to preach or prophesy or speak in tongues all at the same time. However, I believe we can apply the same principle to our lives in general. When our lives are full of disorder and confusion, if we will make room of God in our midst, He will bring order to the chaos.

NOTE: If you would like to see the photo blog of Mom’s birthday party, CLICK HERE.

Blessings,

Linda

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winding road Cover 25 percentA LONG AND WINDING ROAD: A Caregiver’s Tale of Life, Love, and Chaos

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Bible Verses for Caregivers – Kind Words | by Linda Brendle

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Mom exhibited the first signs of Alzheimer’s in what I call conversational loops. She would tell the same story or ask the same question three times in five minutes. Unfortunately, I didn’t always respond with kind words. The possibility of losing her to this mind-wasting disease frightened and angered me, and sometimes, I took it out on her. One morning while she and Dad were still living on their own, I stopped by to take her to the doctor, and she was having a bad morning. I guess I was, too. I don’t remember exactly what I said to her, but she looked at me with hurt in her eyes and said, “Well, you don’t have to make me feel bad about it.” I don’t have to tell you how small I felt.

Later on, when they were living with me and she was further away mentally, she would come to me in an agitated state. She would struggle with words, trying to express whatever concern she had. More often than not, she was unsuccessful, and her agitation increased. Fortunately, I had mellowed a bit, and most times I responded more kindly. Wrapping her in a big hug, I’d smile and say, “It’s okay, Mom. Why don’t you go back and watch TV with Dad. I’ll be right here, and you can come tell me when you remember what it was.” She would relax and smile, and then she’d go sit down until the next time she needed some kind words.

Blessings,

Linda

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Hodgepodge Wednesday – Mothers’ Edition | by Linda Brendle

It’s been a busy day, and I almost forgot my Hodgepodge Wednesday post. Happy Mother’s Day to all.

1. Share something you appreciate (or something you appreciated as you were growing up) about your mother.

 Mom had lots of anxieties and insecurities, but when strength was necessary, she rose to the occasion.

2.  A quote most commonly ascribed to Plato reads “Necessity is the mother of invention.” When did this last play out in your own experience? (more…)

Senior Humor – Edition 19 (Lost Cars and Brain Farts) | by Linda Brendle

seniors laughing 2 041712I don’t usually write my “Senior Humor” posts this close together, but I had a story left from last week’s post, and David forwarded me a video that I just had to share.

An elderly woman called 911 to report that someone had broken into her car. She was hysterical as she explained her situation to the dispatcher.

“They’ve stolen the stereo, the steering wheel, the brake pedal and even the accelerator!”

“Stay calm,” said the dispatcher. “An officer is on the way.” (more…)

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