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Photo Memories of Mom’s 90th Birthday | by Linda Brendle

Mom was born 94 years ago today. On her last birthday this side of Heaven we had a birthday party for her, and the following year, I shared some of the pictures with you. I’ve been thinking about her a lot lately, so I thought I’d share them again. (more…)

Bible Verses for Caregivers – Peace versus Disorder | by Linda Brendle

Disorder versus peace


On Mom’s 90th birthday, we had a party for her at Southridge Village where she was living. Two of her three remaining sisters, Grace and Fay, were there. Grace and Mom both had Alzheimer’s, so getting a decent photo was a bit like trying to hold corks underwater. Finally, Fay moved to the middle of the group, and with characteristic good humor and calm, she took control and brought order to the chaos.

Paul said that God is a God of peace and not disorder. He was speaking of the confusing worship services that occurred in the church at Corinth when everyone wanted to preach or prophesy or speak in tongues all at the same time. However, I believe we can apply the same principle to our lives in general. When our lives are full of disorder and confusion, if we will make room of God in our midst, He will bring order to the chaos.

NOTE: If you would like to see the photo blog of Mom’s birthday party, CLICK HERE.




winding road Cover 25 percentA LONG AND WINDING ROAD: A Caregiver’s Tale of Life, Love, and Chaos

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Bible Verses for Caregivers – Kind Words | by Linda Brendle

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Mom exhibited the first signs of Alzheimer’s in what I call conversational loops. She would tell the same story or ask the same question three times in five minutes. Unfortunately, I didn’t always respond with kind words. The possibility of losing her to this mind-wasting disease frightened and angered me, and sometimes, I took it out on her. One morning while she and Dad were still living on their own, I stopped by to take her to the doctor, and she was having a bad morning. I guess I was, too. I don’t remember exactly what I said to her, but she looked at me with hurt in her eyes and said, “Well, you don’t have to make me feel bad about it.” I don’t have to tell you how small I felt.

Later on, when they were living with me and she was further away mentally, she would come to me in an agitated state. She would struggle with words, trying to express whatever concern she had. More often than not, she was unsuccessful, and her agitation increased. Fortunately, I had mellowed a bit, and most times I responded more kindly. Wrapping her in a big hug, I’d smile and say, “It’s okay, Mom. Why don’t you go back and watch TV with Dad. I’ll be right here, and you can come tell me when you remember what it was.” She would relax and smile, and then she’d go sit down until the next time she needed some kind words.



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Hodgepodge Wednesday – Mothers’ Edition | by Linda Brendle

It’s been a busy day, and I almost forgot my Hodgepodge Wednesday post. Happy Mother’s Day to all.

1. Share something you appreciate (or something you appreciated as you were growing up) about your mother.

 Mom had lots of anxieties and insecurities, but when strength was necessary, she rose to the occasion.

2.  A quote most commonly ascribed to Plato reads “Necessity is the mother of invention.” When did this last play out in your own experience? (more…)

Senior Humor – Edition 19 (Lost Cars and Brain Farts) | by Linda Brendle

seniors laughing 2 041712I don’t usually write my “Senior Humor” posts this close together, but I had a story left from last week’s post, and David forwarded me a video that I just had to share.

An elderly woman called 911 to report that someone had broken into her car. She was hysterical as she explained her situation to the dispatcher.

“They’ve stolen the stereo, the steering wheel, the brake pedal and even the accelerator!”

“Stay calm,” said the dispatcher. “An officer is on the way.” (more…)

Music and Alzheimer’s: The Memories of Music Live On | by Linda Brendle

Piano keyboardMusic allows patients who are normally shut off from the world to participate in enjoyable activities and connect with loved ones. It may also sooth agitation and smooth out other behavioral issues.

 Music Has Power

I’ve read several articles recently about the connection between music and Alzheimer’s patients, and all of them agree that music has power. An article on the Alzheimer’s Foundation of America website states that “[music] can spark compelling outcomes even in the very late stages of the disease.” It goes on to explain how music allows patients who are normally shut off from the world to connect with loved ones and to participate in enjoyable activities. Music is also a valuable tool in managing agitation and other behavioral issues. (more…)

Caregivers’ Attitude Matters to Alzheimer’s Patients

Researchers have found that those with Alzheimer's show a high level of 'Emotional Contagion' - the unconscious ability to mimic another person's emotions.

Researchers have found that those with Alzheimer’s show a high level of ‘Emotional Contagion’ – the unconscious ability to mimic another person’s emotions.

David Besnette at Assisted Living Directory has published another one of my articles. This one is about how those with Alzheimer’s sometimes draw their emotional cues from those around them. In it I cite an article by Virginia Hughes, and I also draw on my personal experience to explain how this phenomenon affected my relationship with Mom.

To read the complete article, CLICK HERE.



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