On caregivers, faith, family, and writing…

Don't Dwell on the disease

While I was caregiving, I spent too much time focusing on Alzheimer’s and what it had taken away instead of valuing what it had left behind. Even when she couldn’t remember what the preacher said for five minutes Mom still had a sweet, clear soprano voice, and she loved to participate in the praise and worship portion of the church service. Dad could no longer balance his checkbook or remember what day it was, but he could still crack a corny joke, often at his own expense, that made everyone groan and laugh at the same time. And when they were no longer sure of how long they had been together or how they came to be where they were, they still smiled, kissed, held hands, and expressed a love that had survived every effort of dementia to steal away those sweet memories.

Blessings,

Linda

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winding road Cover 25 percentA LONG AND WINDING ROAD: A Caregiver’s Tale of Life, Love, and Chaos

Available September 29 and 30 at for only 99 cents:

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About the book:

Sometimes reality really bites. Alzheimer’s has wrapped Mom’s brain into knots, vascular dementia has attacked Dad, and, instead of carefree retirees, we have become caregivers. Regardless, dreams die hard, and we somehow stumbled into the purchase of a forty-foot motor home. That’s when all four of us set out on this seven-week trek across sixteen U.S. states. Now, Dad stopped-up the toilet again, Mom wet her last pair of clean jeans, and David just announced that he was hungry. My head is beginning to pound, and I know this isn’t going to be the easygoing retirement we’d imagined for ourselves.

 

Linda Brendle takes you on a roller-coaster ride of emotional and spiritual challenges that many families are facing right now. Co-dependency, mental breakdowns, and finding love after divorce are just a few of the issues weaved into this journey of caregiving. Whether you’re looking for an inspirational story to help teach you how to “let go and let God,” considering becoming the caregiver for one of your own parents, or are just looking for an entertaining travel book, this story is sure to strike a tender nerve.

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Blessings,

Linda

Originally posted on Anaiah Press:

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A Long and Winding Road: A Caregiver’s Tale of Life, Love and Chaos by Linda Brendle

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Winter in the Soul by Jennifer Novotney

Liberty Belle by Emily Ungar

Pride by Rosie Somers

Bound by Blood by Scott Springer

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Today’s humor is specifically for those who care for a senior citizen who can sometimes be less than cooperative and cordial. You know who you are!

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Thanks to Salt Lake County Aging and Adult Services for posting this on Pinterest.

Blessings,

Linda

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The peace of God

 

I love watching the water. Whether it’s the turmoil of the ocean waves or the serenity of the small retention pond that was behind our house in Florida, the movement of the water and the way the light and wind play across its surface are very soothing to me. When my caregiving duties overwhelmed me, I often sat in the swing on the lanai and lost myself in the peace and quiet.

Where do you find peace and quiet? Where do you go when life as a caregiver becomes too much? It really doesn’t matter where you go physically as long as you find a way to reach that place of peace within yourself. Today’s verse is a continuation of last week’s verse in which Paul said to relax, be grateful, and pray in order to find the peace that only God can offer.

Blessings,

Linda

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Write Your Story

When I first began talking about writing a book, a friend lent me a copy of Mothering Mother: A Daughter’s Humorous and Heart-Breaking Memoir by Carol O’Dell. The book was signed by the author, and the inscription read “Tell your story.” Throughout the process of turning my memories into a book, I struggled with why telling my story was of value to me and to others. Here are some of the conclusions I drew:

  • Working through my life–the good parts as well a the not so good parts–was good therapy for me. Putting feelings and thoughts into words forced me to look closely at and come to terms with some things that I had ignored for too long.
  • My life story is not all that different from millions of other caregivers, divorcees, and mothers of children who have struggled. Others see themselves in my story and realize that they are not alone.
  • When I share the funny side of serious and even tragic circumstances, it gives people permission to laugh, and hopefully, it lightens their burdens a bit.
  • My story is one about continuing to live life in spite of some extreme difficulties, and I hope it encourages others to do the same.
  • Finally, by sharing my story, I give others permission to share theirs. In the sharing, we are all drawn closer together in a community where we can care for and strengthen each other.

What is your story? Grab your writing instrument of choice and tell it.

Blessings,

Linda

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